RelationSHIP Goals

One day in class, our teacher Mr. Festus asked a question; has any of you entered a ship before? The whole class became mute then we heard a voice from the back Sir me! Sir me! It was Hulla; uh huh which ship? Mr. Festus asked? Sir relationship, Hulla responded. Get out of my class Mr. Festus angrily walked him out. The class was in a frenzy we couldn't hold it back I personally laughed so hard tears rolled down my cheeks. 

After many years, although that answer was humorous it gave me an idea. So am going to ask you the same question, have any of you entered a ship before? I am sure most people if not all responded in the negative. We establish relationships with many different types of people. Our family members, neighbors, co-workers, friends, spouses, significant others, etc. So one way or the other we have all entered into SHIPS, be it friendSHIP, courtSHIP, partnerSHIP, romantic or intimate relationSHIP, professional relationSHIP and even citizenSHIP. 

Ships just like relationships set out on a course or route to get to their destination. Other ships make it to their destinations others don't. The term “set and drift" is used to describe external forces that affect a boat or ship from following an intended course or getting to its destination. Relationships also have its "set and drift" and it's termed as problems. People encounter problems in their relationships that change the course that the ship is sailing on. Sometimes the relationship sinks, capsizes or just goes round and round and never make to dock. 

There are four basic types of relationships that I want us to look at; friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships and lastly professional relationships. A lot of times we invest so much time, money, effort and prayers into these types of relationships and it still hits a dead end or capsizes at sea. Have you ever wondered why your boyfriend still hurts you though you are loving or why your boss and colleagues at work always shun you or why that aunt or cousin despises you though you try so hard to make that relationship work or why your friends are hateful?  

I grew up on cartoons and comic books, my favorite was Superman and Captain Planet. These were my superheroes and I mimicked them, anytime Captain Planet saved earth or Superman saved someone the world will celebrate them with cheers. I love that idea. I wish the world worked that way outside the little box in our hall. I wish Superman and Lex Luthor would grab a bucket of KFC wings and let things go, I wish Messi would just admit that Cristiano Ronaldo is a better player than he is or Satan will just write a formal apology letter to Jesus to forgive him. And I have wished, prayed, worked, sweated, cried and tried relationships in my life to work that way too.  I wanted every issue in my life to be talk-out-able. I'm a "let's talk it out and fix it" try type of person so why?

Totally worn out, I asked God why He kept allowing family, loved ones and friends hurt me so much. I felt the Holy Spirit press the same question on my heart, why are you allowing this relationship hurt you so much? Then I got the answer " Here are six things which the Lord hates, and one more he despises with a passion: eyes that are arrogant, a tongue that lies, hands that murder the innocent, a heart that hatches evil plots, feet that race down a wicked track, a mouth that lies under oath, a trouble maker in the family (MSG) Proverbs 6:16-19 this passage wasn't "a stay away from verse" but we are wise to avoid close relationship with people who practice things that the Lord hates. So that relationships or ship that you are sailing or fighting for it to not sink please double check it maybe it's God saving you or keeping you away from them. These are the necessary red flags to protect you from unnecessary pains and hurts in your relationships. Pray to God to show you what needs to be held on to and what needs to go. You will have an incredible life if you are willing to let go and let God! 

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